My friends and I have a set of rules for those we choose to date: you don't date someone who's mean, you don't date someone who's stupid, and you don't date a what-what (definition of a "what-what" is as follows: someone who wears baggy cloths, lots of "bling", walks with a "limp", and acts like a wannabe gangster; in it's natural environment known to say "what-WHAT?!"). These are just some basic rules for who I choose to not date, because inevitably, all three would breed true. You gotta think about the future in these matters!
But in all seriousness, the qualities that I look for in other people are the same that I hope are shown in me: loyal, friendly, trustworthy, funny, someone who isn't afraid to be themselves.
There actually was one time that I reconsidered a preconceived notion for a romantic partner. His name was Griffin, and he was the typical "dork." I immediately discounted him for any thought of a romantic future. However, after getting to know him quite well, we did develop a relationship over time. It didn't work out in the end, but I was proven wrong about him though social interaction.
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I really enjoyed reading your post on relationship filters. While I do not have the same rules that you and your group of friends do, my group of friends do share common requirements that prospective significant others must pass to be able to consider. I think it is hard when you have an idea of a type of person that you want to date, even down to the certain types of qualities that you want them to have. I know that I have a couple of friends who have very specific ideas of what they want to see in a boyfriend or girlfriend. This happens to really hurt them unfortunately because they shut out anyone that does not fit into that specific mold.
ReplyDeleteWOOOOW is the only thing that comes to my mind when you describe a what-what. It is completely true. For me someones' appearance tells a lot about who a person is. That type of appearance screams for attention and is going to be someone who want's his way and doesn't care what people think of him (even your parents). For me I love a man in wranglers, cowboy hat and boots. I associate the worn-in, scuffed-up shoes with hard work and the American dream. And in all the cowboys I have encountered (which is many, including my boyfriend) I have found this to be true. They are the most humble, hardworking men that you could ever want to know.
ReplyDeleteThe what-WHAT comment is the funniest thing I've read on people's blogs this entire semester. Dressing is also a factor for me in what I'm attracted to and not. I'm actually more attracted to a girl with a more "conservative" look over a girl who shows a lot of skin. To me, and of course there's always exceptions, a girl who shows a lot of skin is just wanting attention and possibly some reassurance from guys that she is attractive. I knew this girl in high school who always wore this TINY, SHORT white shorts and yeah, it was hot and she was attractive, but everyone could tell she just wanted guys to notice her.
ReplyDeleteGood qualities to look for in someone; we usually go for commonalities. And dorks can actually be very cute - glad you got to experience that, lol. :)